There are so many problems that pass our way each day that beckoned to be solved that sometimes it becomes confusing as to which one’s are ours and which one’s are not. The truth is that we cannot solve all of the worlds problems and some problems we simply have no business trying to solve.
This is one of those area’s where I am starting to let go as I seem to be an avid problem solver and too easily attempt to make other peoples problems my own. Sometimes I can be too quick to give advice when it was never asked of me and other times I see something that is just wrong and try to right it.
I suppose that growing up at a pretty young age placed me in a position early in life where I had to make some pretty tough decisions and learn from the many mistakes. The one thing about making a mistake is that after it has been made and I realize that it was a mistake I tend to over analyze the situation and try to figure out what the right thing should of been. I will dwell on that mistake forever and vow to never make the same one again.
It is obvious enough of the importance of allowing other’s to solve their own problems and not take away the process they must go through to find solutions. It is the essence of developing both maturity and wisdom. One of the best ways to help is to offer tools where another can discover information that can lead to their own problem solving. Offering tools rather than giving advice tends to allow people to utilize their own minds and gives them the freedom to continue on a path to solving a problem rather than getting a quick solution.
Another way to help other’s solve certain problems is simply by lending an ear and listening without judgement. Sometimes I need to vocalize the difficulties that I may be facing but really don’t want to hear someone else’s advice. This is an area where I can to learn to keep my mouth shut as many times I have gone through a similar problem and can offer good advice.
Making the worlds problems our own makes for a pretty stressful life and there are times where I simply have to turn off the world. At times I don’t want to watch the news or listen to the complaints of others. Sometimes it is difficult to turn off that voice in the back of my head that is constantly trying to solve problems that I have no business even thinking about.
The human race is and has always been a series of problems as we live in societies where interdependence is an absolute. Not only do we want to personally find solutions to our own problems but we want to find solutions for our whole group or tribe. Which so many people with different thought patterns and beliefs it can be difficult to put solutions into effect even when they are discovered. It has always been this way and will continue to be this way until the end of time. Historically answers to problems have either been forced on a population by leaders selected to manage a group or the problem simply is allowed to exist without being solved. Problems like homelessness have been with us forever and don’t ever seem to be solved. It is with problems like this where rather than solving a problem a solution would simply be what is they best way to live with it. How do you even approach solving a problem where an individual believes so strongly that it is honorable to strap on a suicide vest and blow themselves up to cause the terror and deaths of members of another group of people who are not like you?
But this post is not about solving all of the world’s problems. It is about finding my own personal solution of distinguishing between my own personal problems and the problems of others. The truth is that most of us really don’t have a whole lot of problems that we ourselves didn’t create. We create problems all the time without even realizing that we are creating them. Most of these problems we create stemmed from a decision that we made based on the emotions we felt at the time. These emotions we feel at times can drive us to do some pretty stupid things at times that put us in a position that we don’t need to be in. I suppose that the answer to solving the problem of creating new problems is to simply think it through before committing to action.
Lust, gluttony, greed, sloth, wrath, envy and pride. These are the seven deadly sins and in most cases are the emotional source of the problems we create. Before making any decision it is important to stop and really think if we are making a decision based on our emotions or have we actually did our homework and are making the decision based on logic. How will this decision effect my life in the future?
Even if situations where we feel that we are under pressure to make a decision it is important to remember to walk away and find a quiet place to really think about what we are about to commit ourselves to, or figure out if there is an actual need to make a particular decision at all.