Thoughts on Falling in Love and Being in Love

55265.love-for-a-lifetime-webslideAh, the wonderful bliss of falling in love is one of the most magical feelings in the world. It is that magnetic feeling when nothing else in the world means much other than being with the one who has suddenly turns our world upside down. Being apart for just a few hours sends our minds reeling into thoughts of desperate desire to long for the moments we touch them, hold them, and reconnect to something that is more powerful than any other thought we possess. The wild, hot steamy nights basked in the passion of love that leaves one exhausted lying in bed with your head spinning with thoughts of contentment. Looking deeply into each other’s eyes to the very core of each other’s soul and turning two into one.

I have read the words of so many writers who claim that love doesn’t last forever. Once the honeymoon is over you find yourself living with a stranger. This may be true for many relationships but it is the few that understand the differences between falling in love vs. being in love. Being in love lasts a lifetime and it is totally different than the feelings we had when we fell in love. In my opinion they are actually stronger and create a bond so much stronger than the one we felt while falling in love.

Last Monday was a Holiday and I had the day off while Sharon had to go to work. Although I had plenty of things to do I still found myself pacing the house waiting for her to come home. After years of marriage I still longed to be with her and felt disconnected without her. This is the nature of being in love. Our lives are different from those crazy days we spent falling in love, but the bond is even stronger now. In no way is this an issue of co-dependency as we are both very independent in nature, it is so much more than that.

Just being in the same room with her creates a sense of relaxation and contentment that is hard to describe. We have the ability read each other and know when something may be wrong, or when the other isn’t feeling well. We work together in an unsaid balance of just doing things when they need to be done without the a single word about what we are doing. We share our thoughts each night and listen attentively to every spoken word and yet there are times we sit in silence and understand that all is well in each other’s heart. We both know that we were connected for a reason, even if that reason is simply just being together.

Every now and then that super flame is ignited once again as we return to the same feeling we felt while falling in love and it makes me fall in love all over again. This woman who I fell in love with is the most important person in my life. She is my best friend, my lover and half of my very soul.

It is just not wonderful being in love, I have found that there really isn’t much more that compares with it. Isn’t this what we are all searching for in our lives? Sometimes I wonder how I got so lucky.
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Blood Sugar- 99, Weight- 191.2
Just 20 minutes on the treadmill today, tomorrow is “Hello Weekend!”

About SimpleLivingOver50

At 53 years old I am starting to realize how life changes both physically and emotionally. I strive for a life of simplicity. I am winning the battle with type II diabetes, created a plan to have all debt paid off in 4 years including the house, taking advantage of every opportunity to live life to it's fullest through adventures in nature, hiking, biking, loving and learning.
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14 Responses to Thoughts on Falling in Love and Being in Love

  1. Agree! 3o years and still going strong!

  2. Tom Rapsas says:

    Amen, brother. I have been happily married for 22 years and I think you nailed it.

  3. Catherine says:

    Nice post for thought. I was married for 22 years and it was not a good partnership. We were more like friends–and we’re still friends. The relationship I have now is a more mature one. We both have been married before and we’ve learned how to accept and compromise. We are more in tune with each other. It’s nice!

  4. facetfully says:

    Beautifully said. It took me some time and tries, but I finally found it and it was worth the effort to get here! We call it partnership and realize it takes a commitment to being sure it works. Thanks for a lovely post.

  5. To quote a phrase from Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: “Men want to be appreciated, women want to feel cherished.” You sir, should be appreciated for that post! A touching sentiment, beautifully expressed!

  6. Bear says:

    Nice post. I was married almost 25 years until my wife died. I recently moved in with my girlfriend. Hopefully, this relationship will last as long.

    Peace ~ Bear

  7. Rose says:

    This is beautiful. I am around the older adult population for much of my day. When I come across people who have been married 30, 40, 60+ years, I notice the difference. It is a love you describe here. They exemplify 2 becoming 1. Thank you for sharing.

  8. geekkat says:

    Totally one hundred percent true!!! Married 18 and still enjoy it so much. It is an amazing feeling to wake up every day and know you’re with the one you are meant to be. You are very fortunate to found the one for you 🙂

  9. Jenn Prime says:

    I’ve always known how lucky I am to have found my soulmate, but I have seldom heard the feelings expressed so beautifully. When you speak about your wife it always strikes a chord of familiarity in me, and I count my blessings anew. Thanks.

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